Many months ago my husband came to me with a potential job opportunity. The catch is it was in another state. I am not going to lie my first reaction was a hard “NO”! I had no desire to pack my entire family, my business, the home where I brought my babies and moved to another state. The idea of even selling our house made me want to pass out. I had done so much DIY to that space, it all was just overwhelming to me. It was at this moment I started to realize how attached to things I become and how change challenges me as a person. Then I made myself sit down and think about it. How much did he want to do this? It’s not just me, what about the kids? I realized that interviewing doesn’t mean we move. I should agree to the interview, what could it hurt? I certainly don’t even want him to pass up an opportunity; we are a team.
With my fingers crossed, probably for the wrong reasons, he went ahead with the process. After the first interview, his mind changed slightly. I silently exhaled at this moment even though I secretly felt horrible about it. Don’t get me wrong, I always want my husband to succeed. He is great at whatever he sets his mind to accomplish in work. He is determined, and everyone who works with him admires his work ethic, including me. But fear immobilized me in a way I hadn’t experienced before. What if this did happen?
Days passed and turned into weeks and then after we had let the idea go until he got a call back for a second interview. The idea had been reborn, and I was more welcoming the second time around. We visited the city; I made sure there was a Target and a Publix, you know, the important things. I poured over available homes and schools in the area. He thought I was jumping ahead. I do this. I am a planner, and I want to be in control. I don’t mean to be this way, it kind of just starts swirling in my head and before you know I have mentally put an offer on a house just to be prepared and start the process. Interview number two and he was convinced the interview was ok but not stellar, and again we left the idea at the door. This time, I was a little sad, as if our adventure was cut short and I had honestly begun looking forward to the change. We had gone to visit the area, and it reminded me a little of the small town where I grew up. Maybe I wanted to do this after all. Crazier things have happened. The concept of moving can get you in quite a tizzy. Our kids kept coming into play, and I thought maybe smaller might be better after all.
A few weeks later we went to North Carolina for my brother-in-law’s wedding. While we were with family, we started to realize how much we miss being so far south. We have been away from grandparents and cousins for far too long. Plus, the mountains were calling. In all the chaos we managed to make it to the Blue Ridge Parkway. I grew up vacationing there, and my father’s ashes rest here too. It is one of the most prominent spots on this planet to me. With a fantastic trip under our belt, he got the call. Things had changed again, and I was back to stage one of being scared. We ended up agreeing it was the right move for our family, young and old. So the job was accepted, and a new set of emotions came to me. The common places in my life would change, I would have to give up my office, most importantly my friends, my children would have to leave their friends and my husband would leave his colleagues. What were they thinking? How would they do? Did we make a mistake?
The whole process of moving happened so fast, our house was put on the market and sold on the first day. When our realtor called to tell me, I could barely breathe. Homes in our area were sitting for at least two weeks before selling so it was a bit of a shock, in a good way of course. This was happening, I still couldn’t breathe.
A few short months we began our home search and after many bouts of stress and wonder, it all managed to come together. The movers came and packed our home, we were lucky enough to have family take us in the week we were homeless. The stress of the new Dodd-Frank rules almost shot our nerves but we made it all happen in a very short time. Yes, we could have rented but for our family buying a new home was the best decision for us. It just had to be done fairly quickly.
We moved here to Brunswick, GA just over two months ago now. So far I can say it is different, again the change was a lot bigger for me than I imagined. We are only an hour away from Florida, so that is great news. I have lived in the state of Florida my entire life; I am proud to be from the sunshine state and I am sure I will miss it.
Upon our arrival to the new home, the kids were greeted by multiple children in the driveway. They have already made several friends in the neighborhood which is fantastic! We live in a culdesac so it’s a whole new world for them. If they are happy it is so much easier for us. As a bonus, they love their school too. My husband seems less stressed and is easing into the new position nicely. I think he will do great things here. Things I liked and many things I have to work on every day. I think it’s important to see constantly yourself in others, determine if you like the things you see and decide if you need to work on them.
I will say I certainly learned so much about myself during this process. Things I liked about myself and many things I have to work on every day to change. I think it’s important to see yourself in others, determine if you like the things you see and decide if you need to work on them. If someone has a cure for worry and control please email me, haha!
Currently, I have placed my work office in the bonus room; it’s lovely and bigger than our last space. I am grateful for it, but I also miss my friends at the old office, the daily banter is greatly missed. All in all, we managed to pull off a very large task in a very short time and with that it will take the time to belong here. So I have pulled up my boot straps now, and I accept the challenge whether it be for five years or maybe more. I look forward to rebuilding my business here and become a part of this community. Cross your fingers and I will bring you all along for the ride!